What no one told me about having a kid was the constant scrutiny my actions. All of a sudden, behaviors I did in the comfort of my own home were accompanied by curious eyes.
Especially as I was doing things like…taking a bite out of a huge chunk of steak (ya know, rather than cut it like a decent adult would). Or licking the deliciousness of that remaining sauce on my plate, which, btw, I still think this should become a social norm. I mean, who wants to waste that!??
Anyways, THEY WATCH US! And learn from us.
And one behavior I PREACH about to my clients….I all of a sudden realized I was doing waaaay more than I realized. Unless my husband was home & we were sitting down to a meal together, I rarely was sitting down to eat my own meals.
I’d literally pick my cooked bacon/sausage directly out of the pan I cooked it in to eat it. Cause…one less plate to clean up, right!?
By this point, you’re probably thinking “sheesh, Andrea…were you raised by animals??”. Nope. In fact, my parents paid good money for me to go to cotillion and learn proper manners. But much to their disdain, I seriously lacked the follow through on that….
Anyways, I digress.
Sitting down to meals is SO important for a variety of reasons. It helps our body get into that parasympathetic (where you REST & DIGEST!) state. This helps get all our digestive juices flowing & also makes it so our body is going to produce & be more receptive to our hormone that tells us we’ve had enough to eat (for you science nerds, it is actually a decrease in a hormone called ghrelin that tells our body we’re satiated). AND, studies prove that standing while eating can actually lead to weight gain!
But so often, we don’t do it. ESPECIALLY if we are home by ourselves/with our kiddos, for you mamas.
So, so often I hear the reasoning, “but what is the point, it is just me?” as a reason to not sit down (or even cook a meal for ourselves).
Well…I’m here to tell you, the point is that you MATTER. Just being YOU is reason enough to sit down to a meal. By yourself. Or when your kiddos are playing around. Even if you’re eating the remnants of your kiddos lunch.
After a few times of picking up chunks of food my baby left on his plate (ok again…yes, I have terrible manners) with my hands, while standing, and catching him looking at me….I had to wonder what message I was sending to him?!
So now, even if it is a small snack, leftovers, or a really nice home cooked meal, I make the effort to sit down, chew my food, and thoroughly taste & enjoy it.
Because I respect myself enough to do that for me. I deserve that.